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On Counselling
the Manic Depressive
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INTRODUCTION
This
paper attempts to provide a theological and spiritual basis for Christian
ministry to the manic depressive. It should be read alongside "How to
Survive as a Manic Depressive" which sets out five principles which if
followed should allow the manic depressive to recover a purposeful, stable
life. These are
(1) Medication
(2) Support group
(3) Creativity
(4) Structure
(5) Journal time.
To these
I would now add
(6)
Self-knowledge.
Both
papers take as their starting point the belief that ministry to the unstable
must be couched in neutral, non-religious language at least until
the sufferer indicates to the contrary. We should not preach to the
sufferer any more than we would to the starving - there is a more immediate
task to hand, the relief of suffering. Whatever our ultimate goals, this has
to come first. The sufferer will have beliefs of one kind or another of his
or her own. He may be someone for whom the very mention of Christianity will
be a trigger point. Now is not the time to come into conflict. Instead what
we do is to point him down a road which if followed will lead him to the
waiting, healing God in whose image he was made. Our hope is that the
principles we recommend will work because although not religious in
expression they are actually founded on good Christian teaching like the
house built upon the rock.
I would
emphasise therefore, if your immediate goal in ministering to the manic
depressive is evangelistic in the conventional sense, this paper and perhaps
even this work are not for you.
WHAT
IS MANIC DEPRESSION?
Manic
depression is a psychotic condition arising from a chemical imbalance in the
brain through which the sufferer can experience very rapid swings of mood
between the highest peaks of elation and the blackest depths of depression.
There is at present no cure for it but in many cases it can be successfully
contained by medication such as lithium carbonate, rather as diabetes may be
contained but not cured by insulin. Electro-Convulsant Therapy (ECT) is also
used, controversially, to treat it and with varying degrees of success.
Between
the extremes there is a midway, "normal" state in which a measure of
stability returns and this is what psychiatry seeks to achieve. This is the
state in which the sufferer is most likely to seek counsel and also to
listen to it.
The
counsellor who is serious in his or her desire to understand what life is
like for the manic depressive should consider enrolling in MDF The BiPolar
Organisation. This is not a religious body but publishes an excellent
quarterly magazine, "Pendulum" which I strongly recommend. (MDF welcome
carers as well as sufferers as members.)
THE
SIX PRINCIPLES
I want
now to look at each of the six principles in turn in order to suggest a
scriptural basis or parallel for each.
1.
Medication
When
Jesus healed lepers he expressly made them subject to the medical
authorities of his day who were the priests (Matthew 8:4, Luke 17:14). He
did not exempt them from their legal obligations. So under no circumstances
at all, even after prayer for healing has taken place, must we encourage the
sufferer to change or stop his medication without the full sanction of his
doctor or psychiatrist.
2.
Support Group
Jesus
spent the better part of his public ministry training the twelve apostles
whom he had chosen to be his successors. When he went through the ordeal of
Gethsemane he singled out three of them to act as his support group in
prayer. They let him down, but the principle remains : those who have
suffering to endure need to surround themselves with as much love as they
can find.
Imagine
someone standing outside with a thick, heavy black cloud separating them
from the sun. They can do nothing to penetrate it and consequently "walk in
darkness". Such is depression. If they have one or more friends with mirrors
who can stand outside the rim of the cloud, the friends can direct their
mirrors so as to reflect the light of the sun inwards to the sufferer, who
begins to enjoy light once more. Such is the role of the support group in
love and in prayer.
3.
Creativity
We
encourage creativity and the use of beauty as a means of providing uplift,
personal growth and a healthy thought life. The biblical pointer for this
comes directly from St Paul:
"Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is
pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is
excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things." (Philippians 4:8
NIV)
4.
Structure
We urge
the sufferer to build structure and patterns of regularity into his life to
act as tramlines which take a minimal amount of effort to follow when
depressed. The most obvious parallel for such structure in scripture is the
regular round of feasts and sacrifices laid down in Leviticus which
undergirded the entire existence of the Old Testament Jewish people.
5.
Journal Time
In "How
to Survive..." I encouraged the sufferer to sit once or twice a day in quiet
reflection and record his or her thoughts in a journal. Sitting in quiet
reflection with or without a journal is itself a powerful healing process
and for those who want it a springboard to prayer. The Bible calls it
"waiting on God". Some find it helpful to use a candle or night light as a
focus of attention, to draw sufferers out of themselves. The type of prayer
used, if any, depends on the sufferer. Some will prefer something passive
and unstructured. Others may benefit from the rich structure of a form of
liturgy such as the daily office.
(Note : I
can strongly recommend "Celebrating Common Prayer - A Version of The Daily
Office SSF" (Mowbray, 1992).)
6.
Self-Knowledge
Self-knowledge is a principle bequeathed to us by the Greeks. It also lies
close to the heart of most of the world's major faiths including
Christianity in which seeking to know God and seeking to know oneself go
hand in hand. The New Testament takes it for granted as a spiritual goal,
drawing attention to it principally where it is lacking. For instance Jesus
(in some manuscripts) says to James and John who had wanted to give the
Samaritans a veritable blasting,
"You
do not know what kind of spirit you are of" (Luke 9:55 NIV).
The story
of Peter's denial has the very obvious moral that Jesus knew Peter better
than Peter knew himself. St Paul, who commends self-knowledge, writes more
frequently of its opposite, self-deceit:
"Do
not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of
yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith
God has given you" (Romans 12:3 NIV).
"If
anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself"
(Galatians 6:3 NIV).
"Do
not deceive yourselves. If any one of you thinks he is wise by the
standards of this age, he should become a 'fool' so that he may become
wise" (1 Corinthians 3:18 NIV).
"Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall"
(1 Corinthians 10:12 RSV).
Self-knowledge is one of the principal goals of psychotherapy.
There is
much that the gentle and loving counsellor, shining the lamp of truth, can
do to help the sufferer by enabling him more clearly to understand himself
and his condition and by carrying him through the painful experience of self
discovery, especially after a breakdown.
HELP
Where the
sufferer is in a position to receive spiritual counsel there is a wealth of
resources available both to him and indeed to the counsellor, even when
ordinary prayer and bible reading are difficult or impossible.
For
instance they may wear or carry a cross or crucifix for encouragement.
Or they
may benefit like countless other Christians from reciting some form of the
Jesus Prayer, that is,
"Lord
Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner".
This old
meditation from the Orthodox Church on the Name of Jesus should be allowed
to sink deep into the psyche, bringing healing into the unconscious.
Another
common practice is to "put on the full armour of God" which St Paul lists in
Ephesians 6:10-18, tailoring it to suit our needs. For instance we may take
up or put on
the belt of truth to hold us together
the breastplate of righteousness to protect our
heart
the shoes of the gospel of peace to direct our
steps
the shield of faith to put out Satan's flaming
arrows
the helmet of salvation to protect our thoughts
the sword of the Spirit to guard us in truth.
Sometimes
the counsellor may discern that the disorder has echoes of genuine evil
attached to it, in which case he must be very, very wary; fools rush in. One
thing he can do before reaching for his exorcism manual is quietly to ask
for angelic help. We know that the angels are there to help us (Hebrews
1:14). Jesus could have called on twelve legions of angels to save him from
the cross but declined to do so (Matthew 26:53). St Michael in particular is
held up before us in scripture as a mighty spiritual warrior and as the
vanquisher of Satan (Daniel 10:13, Revelation 12:7-9). The following ancient
prayer for his help used to be said after low mass and can bring support
today :
"Holy
Michael, Archangel, defend us in the day of battle; be our safeguard
against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God rebuke him, we
humbly pray; and do thou, the Prince of the Heavenly Host, by the power
of God, thrust down to hell Satan and all wicked spirits who wander
through the world for the ruin of souls."
I myself
(a Protestant) have found that saying the Hail Mary around the beads of the
rosary to be enormously effective when at rock bottom and scarcely able to
think.
FOR
THE EXTREMES
Most of
the above has been written with the stabilised ("normal", centrally placed)
manic depressive in mind. What can we do for those at either extreme, other
than just pray?
The
patient who is manic greatly needs to be listened to, as I have explained in
"How You can Help a Friend Who is Manic". The deeply depressed need to
experience our love, which we can demonstrate in various ways. The first is
by simple touch - holding hands or stroking. Another is by reading to them.
Or we can go for a walk together. Physical techniques such as massage,
relaxing and reflexology can all bring a measure of relief. Unlike the
manic, we must not expect the depressed to say very much. Look out for
special treats. If they are bedridden, the gift of, say, a teddy bear will
encourage self-love and remind them of our love after we have left. Whether
they are manic or depressed, we can seek to lighten their load and that of
their families by any means possible, even to the extent of opening our home
to them. We will be rewarded.
"I
was sick and you looked after me." (Matthew 25:36 NIV)
Remember
however that the responsibility for bringing them out of the extremes back
to normality rests with the psychiatrist, not the counsellor.
Martin
Mosse, 17th July 1994. |